STOP VICTIMISING YOURSELF!

You're not a victim of anything. You're just dealing with what you can. You're going through what you can bear. You've been betrayed by people who you never expected because that'll only make you rise. Someone hurt you, dump you or insult you? 

Stop making yourself feel like you've gone through alot and it's only their fault. It's not. 

You need to stop acting like you're the only one who's living a miserable and depressed life because boy you're not alone! 

Every man in flesh on this planet goes through it. Suffers it. Endures it. 

There are millions sailing in the same boat as you, the only difference is how you deal with it? 

And How do you do that? 

Firstly, 

By counting YOUR drawbacks instead of making those people count what THEY did to you. Look, have a bird's eye view, "why did this even happen to me?"

"Oh there, I should've done this and shouldn't have said that, they're wrong here but I wasn't right either, this scene wouldn't be created only if I didn't utter unnecessarily or only if I hadn't had any expectations from them..." And so on.

Look for what YOU CAN do for a change.

Because I know for a fact that in the end, these people you cry for or throw the blame at will eventually leave you and then what's the point if you don't learn anything or improve yourself in the meantime? 

Secondly, 

Don't brag or complaint about them in front of your close ones. Wouldn't it be back biting? And do you not have the knowledge of what are the punishments of that sin? 

Saying all only about WHAT THEY did to you and not WHY they did and acting all innocent like you're being oppressed by some extremists would be so unfair yeah? Lol. 

Nevertheless, stop that annoyingly stupid habit if you have. It'll fetch you no good but if you're craving for attention then you may get it BUT only for a while. So play wise. 

Thirdly, 

Forgive.

Don't forget that they're human beings too. Just like you and I are. No, I won't tell you to keep  clinging onto them. Once you get to know their habits, nature, character and you're NOT comfortable around them then STOP being around them. Simple.

Forgiving someone is not just being humble and polite on their face and spitting out the worst kind of words about them behind their backs (backbiting... remember?!) Why torture yourself with that burden of hatred bro? 

Finally,

Completely isolating yourself and completely opening up to anyone IS A THREAT TO YOUR INNER PEACE. Read that again. This statement needs no elaboration I suppose. 

Key points:

✓ Learn to accept your flaws. 

✓ Stop living in denial.

✓ Forgive - Take that burden off your shoulders. 

✓ Don't backbite.

Rest of them, you add.

Life isn't so entertaining at times and it's not so unworthy of living either. Look at the bright side everytime. Someone ( I don't really remember who) said it so correctly that this duniya (world) isn't Jannah (paradise) to be perfect. 

Trust me, life becomes hard only when YOU allow it to control your actions followed by your thoughts!

Then again,

Play WISE and stay ALIVE

Until we meet in the next blog Insha Allah ta'ala, Assalamu'Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu💝

Your sister,

Amara.